Yesterday reality hit. I discovered my week could go for easy peasy to crazy daisy in about 30 minutes flat. One simple meeting and my lips took over and kept saying, yes, yes, yes,
And so here I sit, adding dates to my calendar that where once so pristine white.
What happened to my just say no button?
Did my mommy brain simply delete the word no from lack of use? Did my guilt of not buying the last Angry Bird t-shirt for the first day of school cause me to sign up for every little thing they put in front of me.
I have to be honest, its none of the above.
No, I am not a nit-wit. I know that in most magazines, current self-help books and other related material they keep telling us moms to say no and to make more time for me. And I totally get that, in fact you will probably here me whining when the holidays hit and I still have this crazy schedule on top of everything else.
But you see, this mommy-no mentality is starting to backfire.
So many parents are saying no that the handful left saying yes are frazzled and stressed.
These folks are providing a huge service to our children and deserve cookies and cocoa every Christmas if you ask me.
What is this work for?
Well in our school the PFA ( Parent Faculty Association) raises funding for some fun things but mostly basics for what we took for granted when I was a child as well as my oldest son, who is the ripe age of 25.
Library – including the books, computers, and most of the Librarians pay.
Dance (well, I thought dance was a silly class but the children love it)
Computers and Technology Labs
Earth Week and other special events. And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Each School is Different, but you get the idea.
I can remember when I was room mom for my oldest son’s class my job was to bring cupcakes and punch for parties and popsicles for Testing Week.
Now room moms are handed a manual on how to get all the volunteers, money, donations and countless other items accomplished on a calendar full of fundraising dates that would baffle and dazzle any large charity.
What I am trying to say in a nutshell is I simple had to stop saying no and start saying yes!
- Yes, so that my son can have access to modern library selections and new computers for labs.
- Yes, so that my son can take PE once a week, while I sit here and think why not twice or more.
- Yes, so that he can be introduced and participate in the fine arts just as my oldest son and myself had the opportunity to participate.
- And finally yes! So that the PFA president and her partners the rooms moms and other volunteers who work so hard every week can spend more time with their families.
When we moms learned the no-word the other moms had to take up the slack.
I am not saying we have to break down and work part-time volunteering for the local elementary school.
I am just saying when that paper comes from the PFA or the teacher and there are slots to fill or items to donate just say yes to a couple.
Say Yes! Its okay to say yes once in a while. And if you are an over-whelmed say-yes mom, then encourage the Just Say No Moms with kind words and encouragement.
They are probably terrified you are going to make them sign a binding contract to devote all their spare time to volunteering.
So I leave you with this to think about?
How long has it been since you said yes to helping out at school?
How long has it been since you said no?
When you find the perfect balance or if you already have please comment. You may save the sanity of the Say- Yes Mom and give a little boost to the Say- No Mom.
But remember we are all just rocking and doing the best job we know how and that is what matters in the end. But we also need to remember that our children deserve the absolute best we can offer them and if volunteering at the Book Fair or Harvest Festival will help get the tools they need then we need to find some way to reach out and help.
Now back to our regularly scheduled program.